Getting Back

OK, yes I was gone for awhile, but I am back and in full swing! Wow, what a summer in Minnesota!

Fall arrives and the anticipation of meeting someone has disappeared for a moment as the kid thing kicks in and school, sports and work overtake all the moments of wanting to spend time looking or searching for the next adventure. BUT as we settle in, and the routine takes over, the fall breeze, the leaves changing and the romance of the holidays fills the air. OH and of course I still continue to "take care" of myself, that never changes! haha As the dating scene seems to come and go, POF (Plenty of Fish) will not see my face, but I will search the site in hopes of something may seem enticing! Stay tuned!

Just not that into me?

What is it with this guy?  Let see you leave the country for a month with no correspondence, then to return with a "hi how are you?, I am back" text?  "Who does that?"  What is that supposed to mean?  I wonder what they think?  Do we really just sit at home waiting for their return? And does he think I should!

Absolutely NOT!  

Because we don't have too!!!!!!

Really?

You text me at 7:15 on a Sunday night to see if I want to hang out?  Who does that?  Can a guy ever make a plan?  Do they really expect to just come over for what? a Booty Call? on a Sunday? "who does that?"  I know for a fact a woman would like to have a man at least set up a plan, what a concept?  BUT because I didn't fall into the "booty" trap, I said no, why?

BECAUSE I CAN!  

Stay tuned!

The Married Man

Really??? What are they thinking?  GET OUT OF YOUR MARRIAGE, if you decide to "hit" on us!  REALLY?? do I want to have sex with you, knowing your going home to your wife, yes I understand you have not had sex in years, NOT MY PROBLEM!  Move along!  I could take advantage of the situation, BUT I don't, why, BECAUSE I CAN!

Plenty of Fish

Is there really "Plenty of Fish" in the sea for all of us "single ladies"?  I have had hits from the most beautiful men, totally obnoxious, not attractive at ALL and the ages have been anywhere from 20 to 62.  WOW, is not one of these men even a little minnow I could attract to and go on a "date" whatever that means?  

If I do go on a date, do I have to "do it", as much as the bullet is satisfying my everyday demands, yes we all know how it is nothing like a nice body to keep us warm as the touch consumes our bodies!  BUT I don't want to have to see this minnow grow into a super shark, just keep a "bucket" of minnows for my pleasure.  The Shark will come and when he does all the minnows will get eaten up!  Remember, Because we CAN!  

Ending

Yes, as we date in our 40's we will always have the wonderful beginnings, then of course we have the endings.  Don't you love the first dates, the kissing and just the getting to know one another is so intense.  BUT and there is always a BUT, something doesn't feel right, you know it, you feel it, but we stick it out until we hear from everyone around us to "give him up", "really you are way to good for him."   Oh alright, so we end the relationship, even though I am not quite sure we call it a relationship, more like just someone who fills some sexual need or one satisfaction we haven't had for awhile.  However, we realize our friends are right and we end it.  It is never easy, I don't care if it is 1 month or 6 months, there is still a part of us that yearns for something.  Because obviously we attracted to this person for a reason, now we know it is Done.  Hard to swallow for a moment, then we move on!  BECAUSE WE CAN!

Toys???

As I have stated before, I have had more orgasms in my 40's than in 40 years!  SO, I thought I deserved to buy a new "toy" for myself.  Have you gone to the sex party's?  Or ordered from the catalogue?  Well I just did and I am looking forward to using my new "turbo" bullet, it not only has extra "covers" to use, such as ribbed for "my" pleasure, but it also takes 3, may I repeat, 3 AAA batteries!  I can't wait to try it out!  I was also introduced to a "roll on" seduction scent, so I will see if that works with my current relationship.  I will keep you posted as I continue on my journey of fun sex toys!  Remember, my motto, BECAUSE WE CAN! :-)

What is it with guys who have never been married

OK really, what is it?  Do they really think of anyone else but themselves for more than a minute?Be very mindful as any of you divorced women get involved with a man who has never been married.  Am I an expert? No, but what I can tell you as I seem to attract this "self centered" person into my life, is it because maybe I am a bit selfish myself?  Not sure, but what I do know is that pretty much everything revolves around them and if you think that will ever change and that you can "tame" them or even god forbid think you may want to "marry" this person, don't even go there until you are an empty nester and have no one to take care of but yourself!  I don't mean to sound bitter, because really these men are a lot of fun, it just takes a very strong, confident woman to be able to "deal" with their lifestyle.  But remember, BECAUSE WE CAN! :-)

Always there!

You know what I love about my girlfriends??? The fact that if a man comes into our lives for just a moment or for more than a moment, my girlfriends including myself, "get it".  We know how important it is for each of us to just have some good sex, it might not even be that great, but each of us knows how important having some sex is!  And the beauty is that we may chose to hang with the "man" instead of the "girls"  but we know the girls will ALWAYS be there once that "man" is gone!  We will always keep calling or emailing each other, so even if we are not out at the bars doing "our thing" together as friends, we know that once the man is gone, we will be back at it together!  And fortunately for all of us, none of us is in a relationship at the same time.  Oh the beauty of my girlfriends, what we would do without each other!  WE have the best of all worlds, we can have sex and know that our friends will be there ALWAYS!  :-)

Lunch with the girls

I am so lucky to be 44 years old and have the most incredible younger women friends who love to listen to my Sex stories, not only because they "get it", but they have done it, and I am just for the first time "trying it".  I get to learn so much from their young wisdom and raging hormones, I wish I would have had those women in my life in my 30's or even 20's to talk about "f'ing" and how using the bullet will totally satisfy our needs versus any emotionally unstable man trying to figure out how to "lick" us in just the right place.  Really, just give me the bullet and I will take care of it myself!   

Until my next outing sexual or not.

Divorce and Sex in our 40's

What is it with sex in our 40's?  After being divorced/separated now for 4 years, I have had more orgasims in  those 4 years than I did for 17 years of marriage, I am not complaining by any means, because of course there are never any regrets, only gratitude. 

What were we doing as women in our 30's?  Raising kids, working and trying to be "super women"! Now we are single in our 40's and finding our sexuality, working and our kids are older.  While we are busy trying out "match.com" or singles.net, our kids are playing soccer, hockey or gymnastics. As women we still want to do it all, we want to make it to the game, but if a match happens to come up, well we did our part in our 30's, so now it is time to go out on a date and actually get "laid" if we want.  It is ok, yes of course we are having safe sex, but what a concept, dating in our 40's!  Back at it.  Remember saying, "oh I can't even imagine dating again", we hear it from other mothers, who of course are not having nearly as much sex or orgasims as we are.  Yes, dating again, how fun is that!  BECAUSE WE CAN!